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  • Courtney Parks, MA, CPCC

How To Stop Asking For Everyone's Opinion & Be A Decision-Making Machine


A couple years ago, I was flipping through O Magazine and came across a comment from a reader that made me think.

The question that was asked: What’s the one thing you would invent if you could?

And the reader’s answer: A ‘decision-making’ machine. You input your life dilemmas, and just like that, the right decision is displayed on a screen. This invention would save me so much time and torment.

I LOVE this.

I love it because it would help me, help my clients and help every woman who struggles when it comes to knowing the “right” thing to do. It love it too because it would combat the indecision that can keep our careers and lives at a standstill, keep us from being effective day-to-day and keep us from having the energy and enthusiasm we deserve (not the best things when we’re trying to create success and happiness).

While there’s no decision-making machine yet, here are 3 quick tips to making decisions a little easier.

Keep things in perspective

Sometimes, without even knowing it, we let little stuff become much too big. Whether we’re deciding if we should join a group, say yes to an opportunity or even choose what to wear to an event, we can get caught feeling like the right thing will MAKE or BREAK our life or career. When this happens, remind yourself that the details are much less important than the big picture…and one decision cannot (and will not) get in the way of your vision as a whole.

Keep research in check

When working on bigger things like changing careers, starting businesses or relocating, the decisions we make require guts, perspective AND information, just not too much of it. Research can be really important when it comes to solid choices about your future. But it’s very easy to get lost in the details, let those details decide FOR you and let yourself get dragged down by them. Moving forward with enough information, strategy and planning is far better than weeks, months or years of assessment and analysis. Getting into action creates momentum and you will always be adjusting as you go, so be sure to temper what you learn with real-life doing.

Keep your own counsel

Asking for advice from those you trust can be really helpful when you’re stuck. But asking too many people what they think can wreak havoc on your inner guidance system. While we’re not designed to live and work in a vacuum, others’ opinions can make it harder to connect with your own intuition, that powerful part of you that simply knows. When you do seek advice, pay close attention to how that advice feels (if it feels good, you’re golden, if not, be wary). Your intuition will help make your decisions faster and easier and the good news is you’ll always be acting from the wisest part of you :).

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